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3 Years Of Writing On The Internet

April 16, 2014

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Three years ago on my 26th birthday I lost my job. My boss called a meeting, and while I was eating my chocolate birthday cake, he announced that our non-profit school simply couldn’t survive anymore. We were going bankrupt. There was no money. Please clean out your desk by the end of the day.
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I was seven months pregnant at the time, about to move for the third time in one year, and unsure what to do with this information. Should I look for another job? Go back to nannying? Be a barista again? My current situation wasn’t exactly marketable. Can work for two months. PS: Super pregnant.
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So I did what any other millennial girl with an English major would do, I started a blog!
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At first it wasn’t great. I knew nothing about blogging and it showed. I called it Motley Mama and for three years I crawled along a steep learning curve. I made silly posts, boring posts, completely stupid and asinine posts. I tried and failed and tried and failed a hundred million times.
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Great things happened too. I found community and they found me. My writing improved, I made friends, I learned how to do simple coding.
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It was, and it is, great.
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People sometimes ask for blogging advice and I laugh. I’ve only graduated blogging kindergarten this week by getting a new domain and figuring out how to customize widgets. The technical parts of the Internet make my head spin.
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Some general tips: Never, ever write about your mother-in-law. Check your stats once a week or less. Keep it positive (there’s a reason Mark Zuckerberg doesn’t have a dislike button). Give credit where credit is due. Don’t blog about the weather unless it’s really, really interesting. Mostly, be yourself and try not to use the word “literally” more than absolutely necessary.
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Blogging in 2014 is changing. It’s becoming both narrower and wider. It’s looking a lot less like “let me tell you the details of my day” and a lot more like worldviews and Instagram. And that’s okay, we bend and move with the shape of things. As long as we remember we make the rules, that our self-worth is not controlled by the opinions of others, and that creating is a hard but good work–we will be okay.
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I started kbaer.com when I was pregnant with my first baby. And even though I have outgrown its sloppy title and format, I treasure those old posts. Posts about my newborn son, my new mom self, and that unbelievable lady of colic. Farewell with love, Motley Mama. You served me well.
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Today marks a new chapter of my life on the Internet. It is cheesy but it’s also true. May our creative journeys never stop changing.
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Let’s keep moving forward.

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www.kbaer.com

Yes, I saw my toddler on Buzzfeed. No, I’m not going to take it down.

March 11, 2014

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Yes, I saw my toddler on Buzzfeed.

No, I didn’t give them permission.

No, I’m not receiving any money.

No, I’m not going to take it down–for now.

I admit my initial reaction was panic. My sweet baby boy put out there for the world to see, to laugh at, to maybe judge, like one of those toddlers in tiaras. Except instead of a tiara it’s a drawing of a baby bahgina.

Then I remembered I’m the one who put it out there in the first place and that most of my panic is coming from worrying about what other people think.

Look, my two-year-old son got a sister for Christmas and learned a little about the female anatomy. He drew a picture, I happened to be close by, I took a video. Austin and I think it’s adorable and decided to share it. If you think it’s horrifying, I suggest you do not watch the video.

Kids are curious. Kids are funny. Kids draw pictures of their baby sister’s vaginas on the chalkboard and then immediately forget about it and go back to destroying the house plants. It is really no big deal. If you’re worried about privacy, then this whole blog is very worrisome. Rest assured, I plan on making all videos and personal posts about my kids private as soon as they get to grade school like every other well intentioned blogger.

It’s been a weird day. My toddler threw up all over the carpet and then a video I posted a month ago was being watched all over the country. I’m very tired.

If you’re curious, despite the 65k+ views of this little gem, this little ol’ blog has received no residual attention. It’s still just us right now, and if this video is anything like the fifty billion other viral videos before it, it will be forgotten by Thursday.

And that is all I have to say about that.

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