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Hello Halloween

October 30, 2014

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Last Winter I stopped writing these kinds of posts.

I took down all the monthly kid reviews and cliché photoshoots of my babies in suitcases and moved them all to their own personal sites so that only the truly delirious can keep up with them. But for some reason, the Halloween posts have remained here.

I think it’s because I enjoy holidays, which sounds annoying because everyone enjoys the holidays. What I mean is that I like sharing in each other’s traditions. And while I am not a lover of scary things, I do love playing dress up and eating all the chocolate, making Halloween something to look forward to.

This Saturday we’re throwing a Halloween party (repeat!) which is exciting because a) Fancy eye makeup and b) Adult conversation and wine spritzers, no kids.

Austin doesn’t have a costume yet (I don’t want to talk about it). I will be going as a fairy who went goth for her boyfriend. I might pull it off, but will most likely end up looking like Rufio circa 1991’s favorite movie Hook, which is fine too.

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A note to my future teenage daughter: May you never dress up as an undressed firefighter, nurse, policeman, or teacher. Because girl, we can do better than that.

Happy Halloween, weirdos.

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3 Years Of Writing On The Internet

April 16, 2014

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Three years ago on my 26th birthday I lost my job. My boss called a meeting, and while I was eating my chocolate birthday cake, he announced that our non-profit school simply couldn’t survive anymore. We were going bankrupt. There was no money. Please clean out your desk by the end of the day.
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I was seven months pregnant at the time, about to move for the third time in one year, and unsure what to do with this information. Should I look for another job? Go back to nannying? Be a barista again? My current situation wasn’t exactly marketable. Can work for two months. PS: Super pregnant.
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So I did what any other millennial girl with an English major would do, I started a blog!
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At first it wasn’t great. I knew nothing about blogging and it showed. I called it Motley Mama and for three years I crawled along a steep learning curve. I made silly posts, boring posts, completely stupid and asinine posts. I tried and failed and tried and failed a hundred million times.
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Great things happened too. I found community and they found me. My writing improved, I made friends, I learned how to do simple coding.
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It was, and it is, great.
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People sometimes ask for blogging advice and I laugh. I’ve only graduated blogging kindergarten this week by getting a new domain and figuring out how to customize widgets. The technical parts of the Internet make my head spin.
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Some general tips: Never, ever write about your mother-in-law. Check your stats once a week or less. Keep it positive (there’s a reason Mark Zuckerberg doesn’t have a dislike button). Give credit where credit is due. Don’t blog about the weather unless it’s really, really interesting. Mostly, be yourself and try not to use the word “literally” more than absolutely necessary.
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Blogging in 2014 is changing. It’s becoming both narrower and wider. It’s looking a lot less like “let me tell you the details of my day” and a lot more like worldviews and Instagram. And that’s okay, we bend and move with the shape of things. As long as we remember we make the rules, that our self-worth is not controlled by the opinions of others, and that creating is a hard but good work–we will be okay.
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I started kbaer.com when I was pregnant with my first baby. And even though I have outgrown its sloppy title and format, I treasure those old posts. Posts about my newborn son, my new mom self, and that unbelievable lady of colic. Farewell with love, Motley Mama. You served me well.
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Today marks a new chapter of my life on the Internet. It is cheesy but it’s also true. May our creative journeys never stop changing.
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Let’s keep moving forward.

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www.kbaer.com